Breast Cancer isn't a Game!

I understand
why this latest game on my FB was developed, but it is creating upset with
people who are trying to make sense of the BC journey. People affected by BC
can either ignore or join in. I and quite few others though are venting our disgust at
this latest titillation on FB.

PVT
message I received for the third time:

Ok Pretty
Ladies



It's that time of year again in support of Breast cancer Awareness!

We all remember last year’s game of writing your bra colour as your status? or
the way we like our handbag handy.



Remember last year so many people took part that it made National News, and the
constant updating of status reminded everyone why we're doing this and helped
raise awareness!



...Do Not Tell Any males what the status's mean, keep them guessing and please
broadcast this to all your female friends to see if we can make a bigger fuss
this year than last year.



I did my part...So now it's your turn!



The idea is to choose the month you were born and the day you were born. Pass
this on to the girls only and let’s see far it reaches around. The last one
about the bra went round the world.



So you'll write...I'm (your birth month) weeks and I'm craving (your birth
date)!!! as your status.

Is there method
in this madness, well to the individual who created it yes. His or her
intentions were to create awareness plus support for BC. But to me it was just
not well thought through. Breast cancer survivors that go through a more rigorous
treatment than I have faced may not have children.

The other issue I
have with this game is the secrecy it generates. We took Breast cancer out of
the closet. Why place it back in?

I am personally
tired of people acting like my issue has been solved when I know because of the
close community I am involved with that is not the case. There are women out
there with better diagnoses than myself and BC has returned. That is the scariest
heavy load I carry around with me. The knowledge I face could mean I could be
back to square one which nearly happened back in January this year. The pain
and worry I faced for those several weeks I would not wish on my dearest nearest
enemy. My results were clear, but even my oncologist was worried.

I understand we
want a fluffy outcome to a very much dome a gloom situation, but BC is not a
laughing matter. Whilst a survivor smiles on the outside, we are caged
emotionally inside. We are screaming to be heard, but they are silent screams
because we are trying not to offend. I read blog, upon blog and I have developed
relations with those affected by BC and this journey we are on is very, very
lonely.

So I am sorry but
these games to me are just not appropriate especially when I am chatting to
individuals that are Stage IV and facing the agony of chemo, Rads and meds with
no end in sight. That is the reality of BC not this silly game. Please bring
back the pink ribbon in its entirety as the true symbol of BC. Not the silly games
and pink wigs... We need the reality of Breast Cancer to be taken seriously.

Today I went to
my GP and I am being referred for a ultra sound on my hip. I don’t know what I
have done, but I have been in pain for over two months now. I delayed seeing my
GP because I did not want to return to yet another hospital. I even managed to
do the ‘Race for life’ through pure stubbornness, but I have finally faced the
fact it won’t just disappear. My fingers are firmly crossed that all will be
answered on the examination.